Anxiety makes me feel really weird. I've been working on reducing unnecessary worrying but thats almost always easier said than done haha. There's really no fun in being anxious about the worst scenario possible. I try to tell myself there are two ends of the spectrum and that if the worst is possible so is the best. So I hope my anxiety listens to logic at some point!
I don't know how other people's anxiety mixes with social media but mine doesn't mix well. Espcially when life gets weird. Sure I'll be active with my alter egos because I do have content I want to circulate but when it comes to personal pages, my subconciousness gets stressed about it whenever my anxiety spikes. I've been off facebook for a while now ( but I use the messenger to play scrabble online with friends and I recommend it haha its fun ) and I've recently closed my personal page on instagram 😶 It feels weirdly freeing and I have no idea why?
Anyways, the conclusion is I'm doing what I can to keep my anxiety at a manageable size. 👍
4625 hours ago
"ʟɪғᴇ ʙᴇᴄᴏᴍᴇs ᴇᴀsɪᴇʀ ᴡʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ ʟᴇᴀʀɴ ᴛᴏ ᴀᴄᴄᴇᴘᴛ ᴀɴ ᴀᴘᴏʟᴏɢʏ ʏᴏᴜ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ɢᴏᴛ." #RobertBrault
Why would we forgive someone for hurting us if they aren’t able to realize themselves the pain they have caused us or if they don’t have the courage to apologize?
Through our journey of self-discovery, we are learning that often, we search for validation from others. We want others to like us, tell us we look good, agree with our opinions and accept our feelings. This makes us feel important and significant, right?
In the grand scheme of things however, why do we empower others by allowing their opinion of us to affect us? We crave so badly acceptance from others that we invalidate ourselves, and our emotions until we get an apology. We relate this to acceptance. It is completely unreasonable to put our happiness and inevitably our self worth into another person’s hands.
If we are faced with a situation where we feel we have been hurt or wronged by another person, we need to accept how we feel. Every person is different and every person reacts uniquely to any particular circumstance or situation. How boring would life be if we were all exactly the same yet, for some reason we try to convince others to think and feel the way we believe they should or, we refute them their experience by telling them they should not feel a particular way.
Life is so simple yet we constantly complicate things. If someone says or does something that causes you pain, it’s okay to be sad, mad or even angry, but deal with it and move on. Have no expectation of an apology. If you get one then great, it’s a bonus, but your happiness and self worth should not depend on another person. It’s just irrational to empower someone in that way.
Your happiness and self worth should depend on you and only you. Having the expectation and need for another’s apology, regardless of the circumstance, in order to feel accepted and validated is a terrible way to live life. Stop putting your happiness in the hands of others and start taking it into your own hands.If you haven’t gotten an apology by now, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. Do yourself a favor and forgive.
“Your angel gave you a sign
when you woke up at 3:33 am
after you fell asleep in the middle of your prayer the night before.”
An excerpt from my manuscript 🥰
For the past 3 months I’ve been writing a manuscript full of short stories and submitted it for publication consideration last night 🤗 I have no idea if it will get picked up, but just being able to say I finally finished a completed manuscript is rewarding 😭 it’s been a LONG time since I set this goal and I finally decided to get out of my own way and do it. I believe 2019 will be the year of finally submitting my work after a long time of just planning with no execution. I’m already ready to start researching and writing for another manuscript 🥳 (after I take a week or 2 off to let my mind relax lol)
4335 hours ago
I deleted this post and made some changes earlier,
coz I thought it's gloomy & very sad.
Then I realize why we are running from ourself.
This is who we are and this is how we are.
Why we don't listen to sad songs, read sad posts or sad stuff anymore,
Is it because it reminds of your past?
Is it because it makes you cry?
Is this how you are going to move on or erase your past?
I say listen to sad songs, read sad posts, cry like you haven't cried for decades.
It will hurt you, yes it will.
Then one day it will stop hurting.
One day you don't cry to these sad posts,
one day you won't be afraid of darkness.
One day you will change.
One day you are going to be happy.♥️
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Manda contos ?!??! ✍🏼
To com sede de desenhar história mas não sou muito boa em escrever... Se alguém aí tiver uma história pra contar, compartilhar ou indicar pode mandar pra mim !! Bônus se for um conto bem brasileiro, nordestino e/ou feminino hahaha ~
Sorry for the long hiatus, it’s a thing I do :s but if you want you can always inspire me to draw by sending stories/suggestions 😅
7247 hours ago
Come on now, where’s your sense of urgency? You’ve been saying you’re going to finish this novel for years!
How many years have you been working on your book or how long did it take you to finish?
P.S. Yes, I’m talking to myself with this post. This is just as much motivation to myself as it is to you guys. 😂
New post is up where I share a little of my writing process. It’s hard work writing a first draft, but I think trying to decode that draft is just as hard 🤣 I find myself constantly asking myself what the heck I was trying to say.
Sometimes we lose and let go of too many pieces of ourselves for the wrong reasons. Pieces we fight so hard to get back, thinking we would be empty without them. But missing pieces don’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. Missing pieces make room for new ones, bigger ones, greater ones. New opportunities, new adventures, new loves, new memories, new experiences. If we keep holding on to the things we’ve lost, we’ll never make room for all the new things we can find. -rfk 🖤✨