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There is a difference between being alone, and being lonely. To be alone, you’re content within your own solitude. You can hike alone, live alone, and fly solo without having to prove to anyone that you’re independent. To be lonely, is to allow yourself to be vulnerable with people you let in your heart only to be left out when they show you nothing but contempt. They moved on with their lives without you, it’s the loneliest feeling. It’s a painful feeling. I spent most of 31 feeling lonely. And when I attempted to talk to the people I let in my heart know that, there was no care. They moved on and I was far gone to even catch up.
Three years ago, before I met any of these people I let in my life, I was perfectly fine being alone. I lived alone, I hiked alone, and I didn’t have this pain from within taking over me. Loneliness is like a cancer. It can spread and take over you if you don’t do anything about it. And can result to deep depression. Once I recognized that, I knew it was time to fight loneliness and move forward from the people I let in my life. I surrounded myself with the people who know me best, and also continued thriving alone in my solitude.
A change in your social surroundings makes a big difference in life. I know that now. And I can see why some people choose to be selective as to who they let in their life. I remember saying many moons ago... like a bird, you can fly solo and reach many heights. But on a long migration, you will need to be with a flock to survive the rest of the way home. Don’t surround yourself with people who show you nothing but contempt and will leave you behind. Be with people who build you up and well as those who tell you the truth. And know your worth!