Feeling like you need to start over or you’re back at square one? Read this:
I don’t care if you’ve taken a week, a month or a year off... There is no such thing as “going back to square one.” Even if you feel like you have to start over, you are starting again with more knowledge, strength and power then you had before.
Your journey was never over, It was waiting for you to find it again!
Comment YES if you needed this reminder to give yourself some grace, you’re right where you’re at.🖤🤟🏼 #EmbraceYourReal
Y’all doing 2009 vs. 2019? Boy, do I have a doozy for you.
Yes, that’s me in both. Nope, I’m not a natural blonde. Back 10 years ago, I was full-fledged into my eating disorder. It was BAD.
Now, I’m trying to be a bopo advocate while embracing my curves, which y’all seem to like. 😊
In short, old me was miserable. Current me is much happier. With myself, with life, with it all.
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2009 insecure mess vs 2019 glow up 👀 let’s not talk about clothes ok it was all a polyester blur 🙈 Let’s just say your life gets better when you give less f*cks about everyone’s opinion, follow your intuition and cut out toxic people (and ditch shampoo, eyebrow threading and kajal). And wear sunscreen! #howharddidaginghityouchallenge#10yearchallenge
The work of body liberation doesn't end with size acceptance, even though that’s a vitally important and often overlooked aspect of social justice. The work of body liberation is about fighting for a world where ALL bodies—of all shapes, sizes, skin colors, gender identities, abilities, sexual orientations, ages, neurological makeups, health diagnoses, and all the rest—are given the respect and fair treatment they deserve.
We're not truly free from body-based oppression until people in ALL bodies are free, because if we continue to have standards of what constitutes the “correct” type of body, some people will always be marginalized and others will always be fearing *becoming* marginalized. Some people will always be on the receiving end of injustice, and others will always be obsessing about how they can avoid falling prey to injustice. So if we want to feel safe in our bodies, we have to make it safe to live in the world in EVERY kind of body.
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Hills and Valleys Fitness. There's a reason that's the name I landed on for my Instagram. Because this whole journey has been full of hills and valleys, both physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
I've been on a rollercoaster of ups and downs in my weight loss and fitness journey. I've battled depression, anxiety, and self harm. I've gone from taking care of myself, to pursuing anything that would give me a fleeting moment of satisfaction. This lead me to food, to alcohol, to so many unhealthy and self-destructive habits. .
But on the hilltops here I am again, pursuing God with everything I have, truly learning to love myself for the first time, focusing on the important things, while also staying healthy in the right way. I no longer turn to alcohol to solve my problems. I no longer have depression or panic attacks. I no longer battle anxiety. Today marks a year since I last self harmed.
Life in general is full of hills and valleys. But I'm still excited to live through them all and grow to be strong and secure and continue to love myself.
I N T R O J E C T I O N;
✏️occurs when a person internalizes the ideas or voices of other people
💭The space between what we intuitively *know* we need, and the thoughts of what we “should” do instead can create low self esteem, as well as a distrust in
1.what the body is telling us and
2.our ability to make decisions
💬I should work out even though I’m tired. I should change shifts even though it’s inconvenient. I should do that course, even though it wasn’t my first choice
🗝When a should enters our mind, examine it; these introjects.
🗯Distinguishing between what we actually need, and what we’ve internalized is a central issue in most (dare I say all?😶) of our lives. So the next time we’re faced with the shoulda coulda woulda’s, let’s pause for a moment.
💌Can we examine these “shoulds”? 💌Can we honor our actual needs, without feeling shame?
Hidden Beach. Playa Biesanz. Una playa escondida en Manuel Antonio, Costa Rica. Enero 2019
Two years ago this time, I had my life together.
When I took the focus off my own personal growth and poured myself into everyone else I sunk into the deepest depression.
Like deep deep! I made a promise to myself to focus on my journey, healing, health and relationships this year.
So here I am showing up for myself. I started journaling but because I am crazy and a perfectionist I needed a guided one.
I have really enjoyed my mornings with this and highly encourage y’all to try it out!
Let me be clear...ITS OK TO HAVE A #TRANSFORMATIONTUESDAY PHOTO!!!
It’s ok to want to get healthier.
It’s ok to want to eat better and care about your internal health.
It’s ok to want to feel more comfortable in clothes.
All those things are ok!
What’s not ok is pushing a competitor agenda on people just trying to love themselves (all you lovely competitors, relax...I’ve been there too with the No Excuses hashtag, but self reflection is KEY!)
What’s not ok is using disordered eating habits and calling them fitness or hardcore.
What’s not ok is placing your expectations on others.
What’s not ok is supporting diet culture without questioning the health risks long terms of some of these fads.
What’s not ok is hiding under a blanket of whatever movement you’re currently part of to avoid facing your issues with food and your own self worth.
Let stop hiding, projecting, blaming and shaming.
Let’s start encouraging, supporting and loving ourselves and others 🖤
CHRONIC ILLNESS & GRIEF⠀
I say this all the time, but one of the biggest issues surrounding the management of long-term illnesses is that we're often not given long-term care. ⠀
We may see a dozen specialists, have multiple diagnoses, tried all the medications, been offered a handful of physio or CBT sessions (only if we're very lucky to get that stuff in the first place), and that's often as far as it goes. ⠀
Most of the mental health support that I was offered (including by charities a decade ago) was presented in a way that turned me off immediately. It wasn't well integrated. I walked out of the support groups - the atmosphere, while totally valid as experiences, only made me more depressed because there was often a self-perpetuating attitude that our lives were over and that was that. ⠀
I was sent body scan CDs (I'm learning mindfulness now, but I still cannot tolerate a body scan - this hurts and this hurts and this hurts and this hurts! Even if we're meant to move on. Not for me 😂) but it was always presented in a way that made me defensive 'just change your thoughts and you'll feel better'. When you're constantly fighting for belief, maybe think about how you frame this.⠀
We're not taught about finding work, advocating for ourselves, managing medication side effects (oh would a post on gaslighting be helpful?!), relationships, and just how to *live* rather than just exist with our conditions.⠀
No one talks about mourning our old lives and mourning the things we always wished we could do. Mourning what we could do last week but can't this week. Mourning for the person we were - because illness does change you. ⠀
Grief is a normal and important part of coming to terms with chronic illness. I've accepted this stuff in many ways, but during flares, those feelings of grief flood over me again. I feel trapped in a room, seeing all the things I've wanted to do and can't. Trying to come to terms with my situation again and again. Getting angry when I work so hard and crash. And when you have to spend all day in bed you have a lot of time to think.⠀
We really need more long-term support and care to help us cope better as part of our treatment.
Let me make something ABUNDANTLY clear: I am anti-diet. I’m so anti-diet that the words Whole30 ignite a fury inside me & I would sue South Beach if I could. But I’m also a healthcare provider. I want people to live for a long time and reach their goals, and help them enjoy life in their body. So what’s the difference? ➡️ I’m vehemently opposed to diet culture, which is that system that taught you that thinner = better, that you need to be ‘cleansed’ after you eat bacon, and that plant-based people are morally superior. All of that is 100% not true, based on years and years and years of #science 🧬 , so I don’t think you need to listen to any of it. But I want you to be kind to your body. And sometimes that might mean a salad, and sometimes that might mean a brownie. Sometimes it might look like a run and sometimes it might look like a night on the couch under a blanket. The common theme is that I want you to 👂LISTEN TO YOURSELF👂...and not what diet culture screams at you, but what the little voice inside your head is whispering. I want you to ask your body what it needs, and then do that thing. Because she knows you better than Dr. Atkins. And because I believe that #health is so much more than a turmeric coconut paleo smoothie. Unless that’s actually what you want, I guess 🤷🏼♀️
You. Don’t. Need. To. Work. Off. Your. Food. Seriously. Food is so much more than calories in, calories out - and your exercise is, too! Food fuels you, delivers vital nutrients to your body, and (hopefully) makes you feel good. Do we always make nutrient dense choices? No. But you don’t need to tell yourself, “I have to work off that burrito”. That’s setting yourself up for a very negative relationship with food and your body. Your body is capable of so many amazing things beyond just burning calories. If you didn’t make a nutrient dense choice, don’t sweat it. We all eat burritos from time to time. 🌯
Here’s my mega-loaded plate this morning (that I won’t be “working off”): 2 gluten free waffles with elderberry jam and Greek yogurt, 2 eggs 🍳, and a mountain of oranges (having mega orange and mango cravings - so glad everyone is giving me oranges off their trees right now). 🍊
Let me introduce myself:::
Those extremely close to me call me Ghee. I'm a 40 year old single working mother with a great village. I started my blog in 2017 as a creative outlet outside a career in medicine and way to share my story of imperfection in the hope that I help others in a similar position. .
I am blessed mom of one--my little bundle of energy and joy named Jeremy. Being a mother was always a dream of mine even before I wanted to be a physician.
I am originally born in the south however my village and journey has found me turned north to Maryland!
I am an only child but I refuse to say I'm spoiled—I like to say I'm blessed and highly favored!😇
I hate to exercise but love the way it makes me feel. I am plus size and I LOVE it. I suffered with low self esteem as a child because of my weight, size, and color of my skin; I always was the dark chocolate drop in a sea of white chocolate. It wasn't until my best friend held a mirror up to my face that I really began to embrace my size and truly feel as fabulous as I am. .
I am a size 18/20 in most clothes but sometimes will wear and 16 if I want the fit tight and snug
I've had a perm grew it out, locked it down, and then set myself free. I love to wear wigs and weaves to hide from my patients and keep them guessing. 😉
I like to say I'm a laid back down to earth physician who worked hard to get the white coat only to set fire to it 🔥. I want my patients to see me as a friend they can tell their secrets to. My belief is that my job as a physician is not to judge but to help you live the best life possible. In order to do that you must know and understand the risks and implications of your decisions/action or inaction--your choice your life. .
So as my ex loves to say "Thats me for you." Now tell me a bit about you? ~Ghee .
P.S. Today is Founders Day for my Sorority! 💗💚 #theimperfectmd#southerngirlturnednorth#sassyandapttostaythatway#phyatgirlproduction#alphakappaalpha#mombloggerlife#momblogger#mydiastyle#diadomino#mystylishcurves#celebratemycurves#psblogger#fullfiguredfashion#plussize#bopo#psfashion#plussizefashion#pmmlovemybody
You often set goals for Yourself and then give up because you got off track for a minute! You always say I will start over tomorrow or Monday! You often say you just don't have the time! You often say it's just to expensive! .
You have to know that I have said and done all of the above! I fail and think I am just not good enough! But you have to LOVE yourself first before anything else!
You will change your mindset one day! Just know I am here for you during and after...because I love you NO MATTER WHAT! 😍
Something I try to explain so often to my clients is that they do not have the control they think they do and trying to continue to have manipulate that control leads them into mucky waters.
This idea that our body is the enemy and that we must fix it has led our society to a very unhealthy place. Your body is and always has been on your side. There is no tricking it. There is no manipulating it. It will always have an agenda and you can trust that it will always be doing what it needs to do to take care of you. So in order to let it do it’s job and have all resources to do so, the only choice you have is to respect it.
Will chat more about this is stories today 🙏 feel free to ask questions or create convo below!
If you have been struggling with body image and self-criticism, one of the best things you can do is separate yourself from negative people. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I know you've heard this a lot-- to separate those who are not serving you positively-- but the people who you surround yourself with just might be the ones who are holding you back. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Once you have moved on from the people who are bringing you down and can surround yourself with those who will support you is when you can start to focus on yourself and what brings you joy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And you may not have to completely give up some of those friendships. Giving yourself space to focus on loving yourself may just be all you need. Once you have built up some confidence and allowed room for self-love, you will know who lifts you up and her brings you down. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Today the @fitnessbysarahtaylor downtown location is hosting its FIRST CLASS! This week is free so make sure you sign up and come try it out!! And, if you haven't already seen it in my stories, I can finally announce that I will be working there a couple mornings during the week (once I get back from Mexico)! So, come out, have fun and who knows, maybe I'll be working out right beside ya! 😉💖 Trust me when I say, I like to have fun in my workouts so be prepared to laugh and have a good time! 😘💖💪
10 years difference! From 2009 to 2019. No filter used. 🙈😂
CW fat phobia, disordered eating.
The health at every size/body positive movement has completely saved me. And now I’m seeing it used to sell weight loss products. I read a great article about this on @ravishly today, written by @virgietovar
I see a LOT of ads that claim to be body positive (it’s about how you FEEL) while using the same before and after pics to sell you your ideal self. The self that will no longer have any problems.
I see it in my Instagram feed too. We’ve become pretty good at talking the talk while putting thinness and tightness above everything else as an indicator of health. I’m not immune to it. I sigh when I look at old pics. The kind of pics that, if I posted now as an “after”- you’d get very excited about.
But as the person in those pics, a survivor of disordered eating on both sides of it (too much & too little), lemme tell ya- you cannot tell someone’s health just by looking at them and your jeans are just pieces of cloth sewn together. They don’t mean anything or say anything about you.
If you started a new routine that makes you feel great- I am so proud of you! Maybe your body changed in the process and you like the look of it now. Cool! I love that you’re excited and feeling confident and maybe thinness is part of that. But can we please start getting excited about that above everything else?
Don’t let the man fool you- we’re still being encouraged to fit an ideal that, I’m sorry, is not a realistic or healthy pursuit for every body type.
Ik was altijd ZO bang om aan te komen. Voelde mezelf altijd dik, hoeveel ik ook afviel. Van anorexia naar boulimia jojo-de en kotste ik het leven door. Doodongelukkig en bang. Zó bang om aan te komen, om te falen, afgewezen te worden. Volledig in de ban van eten en niet-eten. Van dwangmatig de controle vasthouden en calorieën tellen tot hem compleet verliezen in gigantische eetbuien.
Wat nou als je niet meer bang hoeft te zijn?
Als je alles mag eten wat je wilt, elke dag weer?
Als je lichaam helemaal goed is, gewoon zoals het NU is? ...VRIJ ETEN... Klinkt als een sprookje, maar het heeft mijn leven gered.
Wil je weten hoe?
Volgende week organiseer ik de gratis online challenge 'Ik eet vrij!'. Doe je mee? Meld je aan via de link in mijn bio.
Als ik het kan, kun jij het ook🌟!
Obsessing over the number on the scale is so ingrained in our culture. We have been taught that this is a huge measure of our worth as a person. I remember at one point in college I was stepping on the scale multiple times per DAY. This behavior popped back up after baby #3, for some reason after that I felt like it was time I should “get my body back!” I now recognize all behaviors as disordered eating and diet culture absolutely running rampant in my brain. Slowly I realized that I had made myself miserable and probably those around me. No matter how much I worked out, no matter how “clean” I ate, no matter what the number on the scale said, it was never good enough. The inner monologue happening in my head was destructive and constantly telling me I should be doing better. The shame and “not enoughness” that comes with not learning to love ourselves becomes so pervasive in every area of our lives - work, relationships, sex (yes, this matters a lot!). There is another way to self love and health, but it doesn’t have to focus solely on weight loss.
🍪SAY BYE TO CALORIE COUNTING🍪
⚡️No more pointless calorie counting
⚡️No more time wasted on worrying about some shitty number that is NOT accurate
(Research shows that calorie information on packages can be up to 20% wrong)
⚡️No more letting rough estimates decide our self-worth
⚡️No more meal-prepping hassle
⚡️No more stupid & inaccurate calorie-counting apps
⚡️No more mental energy wasted on comparing calories
Diet culture makes us believe that we are uncontrollable with food & teaches us to not trust our natural hunger cues.
Personal Trainers, Fitness Influencers, Dieticians, Doctors, Health Coaches & the Internet will tell you that the solution to this is down to one equation:
’Calories in VS Calories out’
This is because what they have been taught is largely influenced by Capitalism.
Very rarely are we ever informed on the dangerous consequences of counting calories.
I’ll do the honours of listing just a few:
❗️Disordered eating which can lead to the development of an Eating Disorder
❗️Encourages the belief that there are ‘good’ & ‘bad’ foods
❗️Completely ruins our relationship with food
❗️Begin to view food as numbers - Begin to view food as a mechanism to lose weight
❗️Creates overwhelming anxiety around food - Creates overwhelming anxiety for social events
❗️Preoccupation with food
& the list can go on.
So lets do ourselves a favour & wave goodbye to Calorie Counting
Less energy on bullshit, More energy on what really matters.
I’ve seen entirely too many “you have 6 months until summer to get your beach body ready” posts. Really? 🙄 😡 Well, here’s my ideal beach body transformation:
What if instead of dieting, practicing militant exercise, or punishing our bodies to change them physically- we practiced being kind to them, nourishing them, loving them, and accepting them. Recognizing and appreciating all the things the body DOES DO for us that we overlook- like listening to music, being with loved ones, or simply breathing with ease. ————————————————————————
Don’t punish your body - respect and be gentle with it! Your body will inevitably change throughout life-give yourself permission to accept that. You can’t punish or hate yourself into a body you love; however, you can be gentle and kind to the one you have. You can have fun on the beach in any sized body! ———————————————————————— I recognize accepting, appreciating, or loving your body can take more time than six months. Working towards that goal sure as hell beats torturing and disrespecting your body for a lifetime. Spoiler alert: six months of engaging in dieting, militant working out, and hating one’s body typically perpetuates a negative relationship with food and their body. ————————————————————————
Oh and just to be clear- everyone’s body is the LEAST interesting thing about them. If you’re following accounts that promote dieting, disordered behaviors, display body transformations, or anything that isn’t helpful for you- unsubscribe! You don’t have to look at things that trigger you. Create a positive and safe social media feed for yourself.